ISSUES WORTH DISCUSSING!
How do we fall in love and why do we so desperately yearn to find love?
Without Love, life is not worth living. Radical as this may sound, countless people make this same statement, every hour, or at least entertain the idea. Strangely, even those who seem to have found love, many still have loads of questions. They are not sure whether they have really found love.
My goodness, we are in such a predicament. How can we launch out on a mission to find something we don’t know? Imagine an army Captain calling on his troops and giving them an assignment: “Laddies and Gentlemen, we are on a mission. There is something good out there. We don’t know exactly what it is yet, but we are going out there to find it, and bring it home with us.” “And, one more thing; find your own map and equipment.”
If there are missions that are impossible in life, this one takes the lead.
Sadly, this is exactly how most of us approach love. We have not understood the “love mission.” We have no clue what we are looking for, where we are looking, what tools to use and how to know when we have finally found it.
Perhaps we can try to use some ancient wisdom. Love is a force beyond nature. You cannot buy it, get it by force or pretense, you cannot seduce it, or trap it. No matter how smart or calculated you play it, you will never win love by dictating terms.
Love is bigger than all of us. Nobody fully comprehends the vastness and power it possesses. The best we can do is to go with the flow. We don’t choose the people who fall in love with us, neither do we choose those we fall in love with. Yes, we can choose the ones we marry (At least in the free societies, where people are not forced to marry those they don’t love, through arranged marriages). In fact, some of the people who love you, you will never know or meet them face to face. Don’t ask me why? I have no idea.
Unfortunately, you cannot stop anyone from loving you. You can’t pay them out of loving you. You cannot legalize or abolish it. Love is not a thing. So you can’t trade it. You can engage in commercial sex trade, but not love trade. It’s not a commodity for exchange. Acts of love maybe, but not love itself.
Love is what makes us human. The need to want and be wanted. The feeling of belonging and acceptance. Everyone of us needs it, and a lack of it, or a diminished sense of it, makes us feel inadequate.
So what should we do with Love?
When you finally find love, somehow you know exactly what it feels like. You realize what you have been searching
for, and your heart feels at peace. Hang in there, Love will certainly find you.
Share this with someone you know who is searching for Love.